Age difference and dating
In that light, couples with an age gap may also have to deal with those family and friends who may not take their relationship seriously.If the people you love are convinced that “it is just a phase,” Dr.
HC teamed up with some relationship experts to find out how these couples should handle these unorthodox struggles in their relationship.
Most couples who do not have an age gap can't help but entertain the possibility of a future with their partner, but the added adversity of age, some couples may be afraid to talk about the image they have in the back of their minds. Lieberman says, “Couples with an age gap, who want to plan for a future, need to talk about things like whether they want and can still have children, how future illnesses might affect their relationship, how sex might change, how to assure financial security when one partner dies, and so on.” While this advice may not apply to younger couples now, if the relationship continues, they may need to consider this down the road as they both get older.
Rhonda Ricardo, author of says, “If you marry a SO with a large age gap you’re most probably on different biological energy levels so be prepared to jump roadblocks about how to raise children or possible not ever have children, far before feelings might get hurt because changing your mind may not be an option since your SO (man or woman) could reach an age that vetoes waking up three times a night for diaper changes.” On that note, talking about the natural aging process may be taboo in a relationship with an age gap. Lieberman adds, “It is very tricky to talk about the natural aging process because the older partner has fears that the younger partner will leave them as they age.” Of course, this is a valid concern for the older party, but Dr.
Ricardo invites you to imagine this situation: “A twenty-year younger guy says they are perfect for each other…
except in the car because she must tune into to her classic rock and he says he can feel his twenty-year younger skin sag and crawl every time the 1980 rock-stars hit their high-notes while she sings along with those currently over fifty-year-old singers.