Catholic church dating after divorce
Since I have “been there, done that” when it comes to being judgmental, I can address this issue personally.It is too easy for those who have never experienced the desperation and sorrow of a failed marriage to believe that “they could have done something to save it.” Let me assure you, the divorced Catholics I know (including myself) are spiritual, forgiving people who are committed to family and to the institution of marriage.Perhaps, but only if you have received an annulment (which means your previous marriage was not considered a valid sacrament).If you receive a civil divorce, but no annulment, then you are still married to the other person in the eyes of the Church and would be committing adultery if you married another.What does the Catholic Church really teach about divorce? In marriage, the two become one flesh in a union joined by God, (Mark 10:8). In fact a valid sacramental marriage is impossible to dissolve thereby making divorce not possible if the marriage was sacramental.
Many of us, looking back, realize that God was simply not a part of our decision to marry. My intended was heading to a war zone for a year, and friends and family counseled me to wait. We have all attended enough weddings to recall what the priest or deacon always asks a couple at the beginning of the marriage ceremony: “Do you come here freely and without reservation?
Therefore, you should refrain from making comments or asking prying questions.
Perhaps we divorced Catholics are overly sensitive, but certain statements and inquiries are like rubbing salt into a very sore wound.
As a divorced Catholic, I am happy to hear about the Church’s new vigilance. Annulling past marriages and saying, in effect, “We hope you do better next time,” is hardly adequate.
Many parishes offer post-divorce workshops designed for the first months after a divorce. The Church—the institution as well as the individuals—needs to minister to the millions of divorced Catholics by both changing ingrained attitudes and reaching out in love.