Christian dating advice for guys
It feels like things should be different in the church.
Markers of spiritual maturity, like depth of character or a willingness to serve, should trump my above average BMI, but very rarely is that the case.
“How to catch and keep a man.” Those ads are as oddly ubiquitous as the text link ads for Acai Berry Wonder Diets, but I always assumed that ads with links like “Why Men Withdraw and What to Do About It” were for women who are more pathetic and malleable than me. Because men are so hard to understand, and Christian Carter has spent years reading every relationship book ever published, and he has thought deeply about the psychology of men and women when they are dating. So sign up and give him your credit card for his e-book at a price of .97 and his emails (interviews with relationship and dating experts) at a monthly charge of .97.
I clicked on the link–“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes Women Make”–and found myself swimming through simple, one-sentence direct-mail style paragraphs, like: feeling in your stomach? And then the thing you KNEW would happen actually happened: He unexplainably disappeared from your life. ” Of course, the worst part wasn’t that it happened, but that you KNEW you shouldn’t have done it in the first place… Christian Carter offers to tell women how to avoid the ten fatal mistakes most women make with men, or how to engage and attract a man right after you meet in person, if you are so good as to enter your credit card number to receive his e-book.
I was vulnerable to that horrible ad because I recently heard something along the lines of “I’m just looking for something casual.” Somehow I find that impossible not to take personally.
The sickest thing is that for a moment I even considered typing my credit card address, until I awoke from the hallucination and realized it would be hell to get him to stop charging me money.
I would make a wonderful wife, and I would spend the rest of my life trying to selflessly love and serve my husband.That my body is a great concession that my future husband would have to make.That everything that makes me lovable cannot outweigh my weight.Love isn’t even given a chance to grow without attraction, and when it seems that godliness is equated with an average BMI, I feel like I’ve lost this game before I even got a chance to play.Dating is hard enough without having to navigate body issues and the spiritual deficits that come in the pockets of my size 16 jeans.