Dating for overweight women
If a young person wants a greater “selection” of dates, however, I would advise them to get in shape (most important thing) and lose some weight—enough to be fit.I am really tired of this PC thing that we must all accept any size, any weight, regardless.You’re fat; you can’t have those things.” You’re viewed as audacious and delusional, and it’s really kind of ridiculous.You can’t confidently share full-body pictures on dating apps. It comes from all directions, not just online or through apps.I was catfished, stood up, and lied to multiple times. One guy had a girlfriend and was looking for someone to ‘join the relationship’ (yes a threesome) another had a girlfriend, (I only found out when she tracked me down and sent me an e-mail with photographic evidence warning me of his ‘ways’ and a thinly veiled warning of b*tch get away from my man).There was the sexy ex-military guy turned comedian who lived with his mum, the gun enthusiast who ran me through what he’d do to an intruder (taser them until they poop themselves wait for them to wake and taser them again apparently), the super nice Spaniard (there was no spark but we loved the bottomless champagne and orange juice at brunch), and the lumbersexual I met while shooting a movie (he was an extremely tall hipster and I wondered if he’d ever actually chopped wood). The good guys I dated were a bit middle of the road with no spark. No one freaked when they saw I was fat in real life as well as in my dating profile. He said he was single (he’d been married 33 years). He said he was a property developer (he was a CFO for a rapper worth 0M).
I started thinking it through, “What if I just did one date a week? “If I did that for a year I’d date 50 people.” That’s huge!
Actually, I found it super easy to date in Los Angeles. All 18 dates asked me out again and I certainly broadened my horizons when it came to dating outside my ‘type’. I think there’s always that person who changes you and he was that for me.
I’ve been on a dating hiatus ever since and a lot has changed in my life but #18 isn’t going to be the end.
I persuaded myself through cliches, “It’s a numbers game. Every lid has a teapot.” And with that 50 Fat Dates was born.
Also, because plus size dating is a taboo, because so many big girls (including me) have been told they’re ‘too fat to date,’ because I wanted to find out what guys really think about dating plus size women and because I needed to put myself out there! Although based on the response I’m sure that would have been possible. I tried online dating, meetups, introductions, dating events, big girl night clubs, conferences, weddings, and networking mixers.