Rude online dating
I know that because, especially on OKC, there were so many matches that kept repeating themselves. When a guy would send me a relatively long, thought out message, I was more inclined to respond. So I felt like he deserved at the very least a nice response back. I get a little paranoid when someone reads my profile and then I get this long message about everything in their life and how they are so into me.
It was easier to keep track of them, by blocking the ones that weren't a match. So it has to be longer than "hey," but not a novel. I read the first post and felt bad because I've been sending out longer messages (on a language learning penpal site, not dating, but whatevs) and not getting responses... I'm _____, by the way."I also met my boyfriend on OKC, but I messaged him first.
If they're willing to put up with all the messages they get, they basically have their pick of the litter.
For men, well, you better have one of those specific attributes that women are looking for, because otherwise you will be invisible.
Yea I have met a lot of women online and my standard message was basically "hey how are you doing? It doesn't help that dating sites are about 60 % men so you're already at a disadvantage.
You try to tell yourself there's a difference, but to your mind being ignored by hundreds of women is akin to rejection. You see one profile, you stare at the main picture. In the back of your mind, you don't want this one to be replied to. You didn't even want to have anything to do with this person in a date capacity at all. Shit, they actually mention they don't get messages often.
None of them have really, they just never replied to you. Even some of the deal breakers such as whether or not they take drugs. Some new faces appear, faces that the more you look at them the less inclined you are to message. Maybe you try to self-sabotage a bit by not putting as much effort in as possible. The only reason you messaged this person is because no one else would speak to you. You might be making it up, but the sense of disappointment seems tangible.
Leave the bit about going to the gym though, infact why not put in cycling in there? Even with these changes, and with the ever decreasing criteria you use to search, no one is replying to you. You realise just how indifferent you feel to this woman. Because everyone around you says it'll get better.
It's a lie, but maybe they're just not trustworthy of guys who haven't been in long-term relationships. You must seem like some kind of crazy person to them, surely. "Did that guy message you as soon as you joined to? And now as you sit here, failing to gain any sort of attachment whatsoever, despair sets in in it's totality.