After losing my virginity, I hoped the next man I would have sex with would be my husband.
But I have since dated men who pressured me so much that I have given in (which by the way, led quickly to the end of that relationship).
I read the list to someone I trust, and at the end she said to me, “It sounds like you really just like cuddling.” I replied, “Well, yes, I do.
Boundaries are a powerful tool to help you date with intention.
I am a fully grown woman, and while cuddling is enough for me, a man—especially a man who has no intent on waiting for marriage—will get another message from what I assume is a simple cuddle.
I can no longer pull the card of “I just wanted to cuddle,” and I really have to think of the consequences of I crave physical touch.
I wasn’t taught tools (or if I was, I didn’t hear them) of how to navigate that as an adult.
When I lost my virginity in a blackout my sophomore year of college to someone that I didn’t actually know, it sent me on a long journey of discovering how boundaries actually set me free to date and help me to stay true to myself.